Have you ever found yourself holding onto hurt, unsure if you could ever forgive the one who caused it? Forgiveness is a beautiful concept until we’re asked to put it into practice. Yet, it’s in those most painful moments that forgiveness has the power to set us free.

Forgiveness, at its core, is the act of canceling a debt—not necessarily about reconciling with the person who hurt us, but about releasing ourselves from the heavy weight of bitterness. It’s a choice to let go, even if that relationship doesn’t return to what it once was. God calls us to forgive, and while it’s often difficult, forgiveness is the first step toward healing.

In Ephesians 4:32, we’re encouraged to “forgive one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” This verse reminds us that forgiveness isn’t based on who’s “earned” it. God forgave us while we were still broken, extending grace we didn’t deserve. In the same way, we’re invited to forgive others—not to diminish the hurt, but to follow the example of grace God has shown us.

So, how do we approach forgiveness when we’ve been deeply wronged? First, we can start by acknowledging the pain. Ignoring or dismissing our hurt only delays healing. Then, we remember how God has forgiven us, which can change our perspective on the offense. With this perspective, we can pray for the person who wronged us, asking God to bless them even if we don’t feel ready. In time, this act of prayer can soften our hearts and allow us to see that person as God does: someone in need of grace, just like us.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean we accept harmful behavior or that we’re immediately restored to the person who hurt us. Instead, it’s about aiming to have no regrets, removing any obstacles of bitterness that stand between us and God’s peace.

Is there someone in your life who needs your forgiveness? This week, I encourage you to take a small step forward. Maybe it’s a prayer, a shift in perspective, or even reaching out to the person if you’re ready. Remember, forgiveness doesn’t happen overnight, but each step forward is a step toward healing and freedom. Let’s walk in the grace God has shown us, finding new strength in forgiving others.